Shame:

I tend to lean towards agreeing with the concept that shaming someone stems from that individual's intent to initially hurt you. Shame is dangerous because it is a form of betrayal amongst our peers. There is an unwritten agreement between individuals that states, keep my personal stuff private and typically shaming someone focuses on a person's weaknesses. Shame usually rears its head in instances in which people offend someone on a very personal level in these instances because emotions run high and dictate response oftentimes the victim can either remain the victim or become a prosecutor themselves. When an individual intends to hurt someone else they tend to bring up something about that person that will bring them shame or embarrassment. We see examples of this in the media all the time, from political scandals to Hollywood intrigue. Shame is just another way people make individuals feel bad about themselves in order to take the spotlight off of their own shortcomings. And really I think that is what it boils down to, shaming someone is essentially a defense mechanism for the insecure, implemented in order to take the spotlight off of them. The person who has been shamed on the other hand can either admit to said fault or ignore it, either way they must deal with the repercussions directly. Yet, it's interesting to note that, the only reason they must face the fallout of their shaming is in order to make clear with society where they stand on the matter. Shame is a shared response, you feel the shame because you know others are aware that you're shameful. I think there is a lesson to learn there; in that, to some degree we should stop putting so much emphasis on what others think about us in order to ensure we are living our lives on our terms. I think a decent sense of self consciousness is a good thing, because it helps to further define you. However, the people who let other people's opinions of them dictate their way of life should truly reconsider where their priorities lie or they shall never live a healthy satisfied life.
I cant seem to recall any specific moments in my life where a person has tried to shame me in order to make themselves look better, but I know that it happened to me quite a few times growing up. Particularly instances in which I was picked on, which were all fairly minor instances, but I can recall a few in which the individual was likely doing so because they had their own insecurities to deal with and they were projecting that onto me.
I think there actually is a difference between the implications of shame and guilt, but the two go hand in hand with realizations of our insecurities. Shame is just another form of guilt in a way and vise versa. Typically these two feelings draw off one another, it just depends on how the person can quantify their feelings in a personal way and determine whether or not these feelings will motivate them to make up for, or move on from their actions. So really, the question is more like, what is the Reaction To shame or guilt and is it the same if an individual feels more one way or the other. For instance, if I feel guilty that I stole a car because I know I shouldn't have and I also feel shame because I know the individual whom I stole it from; the feelings are incredibly similar, yet either way these feelings mean nothing if I don't take action and decide to turn myself in, or just bottle the emotions and move on. I guess my point is that no matter what emotions we experience, it's the actions that truly define us. And that before we can ever make any progress in life, we must choose to make sense of our emotions and act upon them through rational thought, first and foremost.