Software Bugs:

First of all, thank you Dr. Fletcher for the very candid and forthright prompt. I know that we all face these kind of system functions that tend to give us reason to question and as you and Cameron both pointed out, this installed software isn't necessarily right for every system, often times upgrades are necessary. I related to this chapter particularly in regard to the areas relating to finances and budgeting, spending too much etc. So, my Dad is an amazing man and the best father anyone could ever ask for, no shit, my family is really close. Here's the thing though, my Dad started saving money and making budgets for himself before he even became a teenager......so yeah. While I've always been in awe by the fact at how smart and careful Dad is with his money, its also made me super self conscious of how I spend and save my money. This is something he's instilled in my sister and I...well and my Mom too for that matter, since we were kids. It's a weird catch-22 situation in that, Dad taught us(though it took a while to sink in) to be very cautious with our spending and never impulse buy, or be frivolous with our money. While this is very smart and saves you when you're in trouble, it also creates a feeling of guilt for every purchase you ever make. I literally get buyers remorse every time I buys something, especially a large expenditure, because I feel like I'm being irresponsible and granted sometimes I am. The thing is, Dad is right and he is so right that because he has always viewed money as something to be saved not spent, he has provided for his family and saved up so much of his hard earned dollar that we are all able to live comfortably and not have to worry about finances as much as the average American family. His heart has always been in the right place though, both Allie and I had to learn the hard way about how to save and how not to over spend and what it's like to have to work your way out of debt (even if it's just being indebted to your father). Yet, the ramifications of the feeling of guilt he also instilled from the response we would get from him anytime he found out we spent our money on something he felt was superfluous was enough to have a strongly negative lasting effect. Dad has gotten a lot better about this since he reached retirement, yet I still find myself unable to enjoy gifts to myself, because I have been made to feel like I'm wasting money or not worth treating myself to something I want. While on the other hand I can recognize that, well, often times I am wasting money and it would have been smart to not buy a Wii U because, what's this, oh I just got in a car accident the very next week and now have to pay for all that mess in addition to my frivolous expenditure....great, I should have known better. I guess the reality is, that Dad's way, is exactly the way everyone should be with their finances, but the way he chose to instill this information on us at an early age was a mixed bag and ultimately made us look at him as a 'miser' as opposed to our caretaker. This had lasting effects that are hard to undo, but I am trying, because it comes from a good place and my Father has given so much to secure a good life for his family that I could never fault him for that.